Articles - Kathy Varol

 

Is it how I make them feel?

It’s a question that’s whispered behind many of my relationships. What if they only like me because of how I make them feel? Because I listen well. Because I hold space. Because I validate their experience, reflect their brilliance, help them untangle the mess in their mind. Because I’m safe. …

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The disease of efficiency

Straight out of my MBA, I landed at MillerCoors as an associate brand manager. I was hungry, ambitious, ready to prove myself. Early on, I was sent to a 2-day corporate training based on The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. Most of the training blurred into …

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Not every friendship was meant to last

Some old friendships are like slipping on your favorite cardigan. Soft. Familiar. Perfectly worn in all the right places. The kind of comfort you didn’t realize you missed until you’re wrapped in it again. You fall back into step mid-sentence. You laugh like you never left. And even though time …

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Anger: The misunderstood ally

I wasn’t always comfortable with my anger. In fact, for a long time, I was afraid of it. I grew up around hot tempers. Raised voices. Anger was loud and physical, and often left wreckage in its wake. So when I felt anger rise in my own body, it scared …

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Let your love roar like a lion

At the start of this year, fresh in a new city and on the brink of turning 45, I pulled a tarot card for guidance. The message was simple: Let your love roar like a lion. I rolled my eyes. Love, to me, has always been soft. A warm blanket …

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Channeling my 6-year-old self

When I was six years old, I was blazingly unshy. I didn’t “meet” neighbors, I introduced myself to them. I would march across the street, knock on a stranger’s door solo, and say something like, “Hi! I love your Mustang. I’ve never been in your house before. Can I have …

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Let Yourself Be Moved

Sometimes life gets stuck on the same track. The song you’re swaying to isn’t bad or painful. But everything becomes just quietly repetitive. You look up, and whole years have slipped by. Not because anything was wrong, but because everything was the same. No change of school year, job, relationship, …

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2025: Death, Rebirth, and Rediscovery

As I reflect on 2025, one phrase keeps returning: Death and rebirth. Not just as metaphors, but as invitations. This year asked me to let go. To step out of roles I’d outgrown, and into something quieter, deeper, more honest. To trust what was emerging, even when I couldn’t yet …

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The future of work: thriving, not just surviving

Imagine waking up to the same routine. You drink your coffee, skim through emails, check Slack notifications. Your inbox is already overflowing, meetings are stacked back-to-back, and there’s a pit in your stomach that tightens with each passing hour. You finish the day exhausted, yet somehow, it doesn’t feel like …

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Overthinking isn’t protection—it’s a prison of what-ifs

There’s a difference between doing your due diligence and dismantling yourself with doubt. You know the pattern—obsessively reviewing every detail, scanning for what you missed, bracing for the booby trap. It feels like smart thinking. Like preparation. Like safety. But what it really is… is fear. Fear that if you …

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