Avoidance is not protection, it’s postponement
There’s a part of you that already knows this. That unopened envelope on the kitchen counter. The uncomfortable conversation you keep rescheduling. The dream you talk about but never move toward. The grief you keep distracting yourself from. You tell yourself it’s not the right time. That you’ll deal with …
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You don’t need to be understood to be valid
There’s a particular kind of ache that comes from not being understood. You open your heart. You share a truth. You take a risk. And the other person just… doesn’t get it. Worse, they might judge it. Dismiss it. Twist it into something it’s not. And suddenly, that truth, once …
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Not everything you feel is yours
There’s a tightness in your chest. A heaviness behind your eyes. A low hum of urgency you can’t quite place. You try to trace it. Did something happen today? Did you forget something important? Did you do something wrong? But no matter how hard you search, you can’t find the …
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The illusion of thinking your way into being
There’s something seductive about the mind. It whispers promises of certainty, control, and clarity. It tells us that if we just think a little harder, read a little more, take one more course, or make the perfect plan…then, we’ll finally feel ready. Ready to speak up. To quit the job. …
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The awkward, essential middle
We don’t talk enough about the middle. Not the exciting beginning, when inspiration strikes and everything feels possible. Not the triumphant end, when the thing is finished, launched, celebrated, or integrated. But the part in between. The part where you suck at it. Where your words fall flat. Where your …
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How you talk to yourself is how you teach others to treat you
We often think of self-talk as something private. An internal monologue. A harmless habit. A behind-the-scenes commentary that no one else can hear. But here’s the truth: Your internal dialogue sets the energetic tone of your entire life. The way you speak to yourself. How you narrate your worth, your …
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The superpower I hid for 38 years—and what it cost me
For most of my life, I pretended I didn’t see you. I convinced myself it wasn’t my place to notice your sadness, your fear, your pain. From a young age, I learned that seeing too much could make people uncomfortable. Acknowledging what I saw—your vulnerability, your cracks—seemed to threaten the …
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What if your job didn’t drain?
Do you ever feel like you’re living two different lives? In one, you’ve got the job that pays the bills—even if it doesn’t light you up. You tell yourself it’s not the right time to make a change. That maybe someday, later, you’ll figure out what’s next. Then there’s the …
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When you outgrow the life you asked for
There’s a strange thing that happens when a dream starts to die. Not because it failed. But because you outgrew it. It might’ve been the job you once wanted. The title you worked so hard to earn. The stability you once craved like oxygen. And now, here you are. Sitting …
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When You Can’t Understand Why Someone Tried to Hurt You
There are moments in life that leave you shaken not because something big happened, but because of the why behind it. Recently, I had an interaction with someone who intentionally tried to sabotage something I was building. It wasn’t subtle. It wasn’t accidental. It was deliberate. And it rattled me. …
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