The softness and the fire
I had a strange dream recently. I’m walking behind a very successful man. He doesn’t know I’m there. Someone steps out of a doorway in front of him and he completely loses it. Screaming, yelling. And something in me ignites. I lose it right back. I get in his face …
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The White Room
The light is a little blinding. But that’s almost the point. It makes everything clear. There’s nothing here. The walls are white. The ceiling is white. The floor is white. Nowhere for anything to hide. Nowhere for me to hide, either. This place makes me anxious. There’s nothing to grab …
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Sit down.
Someone said something in our Beautiful Lies virtual living room a few weeks ago that I haven’t been able to stop thinking about. We were deep in conversation. The kind that winds and surprises you. Someone dropped a question into the room: if you’re lost in the forest, what do …
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I want to be wooed
As I’ve kicked off this year, I’ve been naming my intention as balance. Less over-giving. More reciprocity. An end to the quiet exhaustion of pouring without being met. That intention was real. And true. And necessary. But recently, in a conversation that slowed me down just enough, I realized something …
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Beyond like and dislike
I was walking along the beach with my husband and our dogs. The sun was glinting off the water like it was flirting. A row of sailboats floated on the horizon, picture-perfect in the golden hour glow. And a thought popped in, as gentle as the breeze: I love seeing …
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The full moon and a room of strangers
A month into a new city, still figuring out the rhythm of this new chapter, I got an unexpected invite: A full moon women’s circle. At a friend-of-a-friend’s house. An hour away. Up winding roads into the hills. My first response? Hesitation. The idea of showing up alone, as the …
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Is it how I make them feel?
It’s a question that’s whispered behind many of my relationships. What if they only like me because of how I make them feel? Because I listen well. Because I hold space. Because I validate their experience, reflect their brilliance, help them untangle the mess in their mind. Because I’m safe. …
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The disease of efficiency
Straight out of my MBA, I landed at MillerCoors as an associate brand manager. I was hungry, ambitious, ready to prove myself. Early on, I was sent to a 2-day corporate training based on The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. Most of the training blurred into …
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Not every friendship was meant to last
Some old friendships are like slipping on your favorite cardigan. Soft. Familiar. Perfectly worn in all the right places. The kind of comfort you didn’t realize you missed until you’re wrapped in it again. You fall back into step mid-sentence. You laugh like you never left. And even though time …
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Anger: The misunderstood ally
I wasn’t always comfortable with my anger. In fact, for a long time, I was afraid of it. I grew up around hot tempers. Raised voices. Anger was loud and physical, and often left wreckage in its wake. So when I felt anger rise in my own body, it scared …
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