We don’t talk enough about the middle.
Not the exciting beginning, when inspiration strikes and everything feels possible.
Not the triumphant end, when the thing is finished, launched, celebrated, or integrated.
But the part in between.
The part where you suck at it.
Where your words fall flat.
Where your body fumbles the movement.
Where your idea doesn’t quite land.
Where you look back at what you made and think, “Yikes.”
That middle? It’s not a sign you’re on the wrong path.
It’s the path.
We live in a culture obsessed with mastery.
We idolize expertise, polish, perfection.
We’re shown the highlights, the applause, the before-and-after.
But we rarely see the during.
The drafts.
The shaky attempts.
The inner voice that whispers, “Who do you think you are?”
And so, when we try something new and it doesn’t come easily, we assume something’s wrong.
With us.
With the dream.
With the path we chose.
We forget: this part is required.
Because here’s the truth that most people won’t say out loud:
You can’t skip the part where you’re bad at it.
No one gets to bypass the awkward phase.
Not the dancers. Not the founders. Not the public speakers, the writers, the artists, the lovers.
Not the parents, or the leaders, or the people trying to live more fully aligned lives.
There’s a season of suck in everything worth doing.
And if you quit when it feels awkward, uncomfortable, or not-yet-fully-you, you’ll never find out what’s on the other side.
You’ll stay in the safety of the known.
You’ll build a life around your strengths and avoid your edges.
And you’ll wonder why you feel stuck.
But if you can stay in the awkward, essential middle?
If you can let yourself be bad at something long enough to get better?
Magic happens.
Confidence is built, not found.
Skill is shaped, not born.
Your voice, your craft, your power—they come alive through use.
You find yourself by doing, not by waiting to feel ready.
I see this every day in my coaching practice.
Brilliant, capable humans come to me wanting clarity, purpose, a career or life that actually feels like them.
And at some point, the same question arises:
“But what if I’m not good at it?”
My answer:
“Then you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.”
Because not being good at it isn’t a stop sign.
It’s a starting point.
The courage to begin badly is what separates those who dream of change from those who actually live it.
So if you’re in that messy, frustrating middle—keep going.
You’re not failing.
You’re unfolding.
This is what growth looks like.
This is how becoming feels.
Don’t rob yourself of the richness that lives on the other side of awkward.
Because the only way to get good at something?
Is to be willing to be bad at it first.
P.S. If you’re navigating a transition—or holding a vision that feels out of reach because you’re still fumbling through the beginning—I’d love to support you. Coaching offers a safe space to be imperfect, to be in process, and to keep moving forward anyway. You don’t have to do it alone.
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